Let's put ourselves in context! We have all gone through this tedious world of first dates, specific moments or even entire eras of drought in terms of stable relationships. So let's not worry and let's have fun in the process and be well prepared to avoid possible setbacks that we may encounter.
Where and when is that appointment going to be?
The fundamental thing is to start from this point...going for an informal coffee is not the same as going to dinner with that date in question, going to a concert...and when is also important; yes in the morning, in the afternoon, at night...
As the possibilities are very wide, we are going to try to group the most common options and see the pros and cons of each of them.
Dinner and first date
A dinner is usually the most common and in some ways it gives you more pressure since, unless you eat at the speed of light, from an hour and a half to two hours it usually doesn't go down. Always try to be clear about what type of restaurant you go to, lest you have to eat raw fish if you hate it, eat meat if you are vegetarian... well, it is better to control this point.
- PROS
- If the person you are dating turns out to be lovely Well, you will enjoy a fantastic evening.
- It gives us indirect information about that person; How does she behave with the waiters, if so? educated and he serves you first or he throws himself directly at the plates as if it were the last meal of his life, if he offers you his plate so that you can try his, if he is a “pejiguero” eating or undecided, if he eats with his hands or cutlery (:P), if he starts to pay or goes to the bathroom “casually” when the bill comes...
- CONS
- If is one leadI'm sorry, but it's going to take a bit of time.
- That moment always appears uncomfortable about who pays the bill. There are no rules in this regard and each person usually acts based on their principles...the most protocol or conventional thing is that the boy is the one who pays for the first date (be careful! The first one, let's not be too stingy). But you always have to have the delicacy of try to pay And of course if they invite you, don't take it for granted and be grateful because it is always an effort and detail on the part of the other person.
- If you don't feel very sure about what each dish is, you may feel a little lost. The best strategy is to act with modesty and ask what each item is (do not ask for more than two dishes since it is not a matter of making you tired), another option would be to tell the waiter your preferences; Whether meat or fish, do you prefer something light or strong...and ask for their recommendation in this regard.
Coffee or beers and first date
An informal beer or coffee; It is another very common option on first dates.
- PROS
- If you have not had previous face-to-face contact with that person or you have had very little contact, it is a way safe and practice of having a first contact.
- If there is no feeling with that person it is much easier for get away afterwards without it looking too bad.
- It takes the pressure off of a more formal dinner setting, and there is usually a more formal atmosphere. relaxed.
- Since it is a casual occasion, your outfit will be less complicated. Try not to go over “comfortable” either and go with a neat look but informal.
- CONS
- Sometimes these dates are a bit of a whirlwind and you don't have enough time to get an idea of what the other person is like.
- If the date is over a few beers or wines, it is very easy for so much talking, the distraction of focusing on the other person's reactions, to make you lose count of the amount you you drink and you can get a little carried away on a first date (try not to go on an empty stomach ;P)
In parallel, you can learn how to organize interesting strategies for that date and reduce the chances of screwing up.